Every parent wants nothing more then to see their child happy and successful, as parents we play a large roll in this. Children learn how to react and respond to their environment, and threw this they can learn how to handle different situations they may come cross in their daily lives. The first place this learning experience take place is with in the home and it is biased on what kind of parent we are. One major requirement missing from our society is the lack of parenting style information should be mandatory for parent to have. There are four general parenting styles, Authoritarian, permissive parenting, Authoritative and Uninvolved parenting. The parenting styles are as follows (Van)
- Authoritarian Parenting: With this kind of parent the child never gets a stable set of rules and boundaries, and once these unknown limits are crossed harsh punishment it put into place. This does not allow for open communication between the child and the parent. Since the Parents are unresponsive to the child’s needs and are quick to discipline, this causes these children to often be unhappy, fearful, and anxious.
- Permissive Parenting: This is the parent that gives the child anything they child wants. This parent has little to no rules and no boundaries. Because of this the child has little self control and is normally immature.
- Authoritative Parenting: authoritative parents have set rules and guidelines that their children are expected to follow. This type of parent is will listen to the child and allow open communication between, this in turn helps set up a give and take relationship.
- Uninvolved Parenting: An uninvolved parent is just that, a parent that is no involved with their child. The parent has few demands, and little communication. This parent only gives the child its basic needs.
Each of these parenting styles causes the child to react in different ways. The first example is authoritarian parenting, these children are normally well mannered and behaved, but in turn are unhappy and have low self esteem and low social skills. Next is the permissive parenting, here children are more likely to have problems following orders and dealing with authority. This in turn causes them to have poor performance in school, work and any other establish institution. One could say the children to the uninvolved parents are always going to be the problem children; unfortunately with this parenting style there really is no way around it. Here the children lack self-esteem, low social skills and are normally can not be controlled. After all of this comes the authoritative parenting, here children are normally happy capable and successful (Van ). The typical parent is unaware of the different parenting styles and the harm that some may bring.
As I have stated before, children to do come with manuals, as a first time parent you must weigh things out and hope you get it right. By making it mandatory for parents to have this information, maybe it can not only help the parent with the struggles of parenthood, but also help more children become happy and successful. Some parents may not understand the effects of their parenting styles on their children until it is too late, and the effects are already set into place. By having parents receive this information, may be the first step in helping this process. Maltreatment can come from some of these parenting styles, and as stated before, maltreatment can lead the juvenile to delinquency.
Some say that teenagers today are out of control, they talk back, they have no respect for authority … ect. These children’s behavior stems from how their parents raised them. If parents had knowledge of what they needed to do to and the steps that they needed to have a successful and happy child, then hopefully they would make the effort to do so. In the long run the mandatory information provided to parents may help not only our children, but our communities as well. If parents can deter their children from acting out, and disobeying authority, this may once again help to have better moral in our society.
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